Postponed weddings and how to cope with them.

Postponed and cancelled weddings have been a constant feature during the covid 19 crisis and anyone that works in the wedding industry has suffered from having countless weddings moved to later dates or cancelled completely. As a business owner it has made this an incredibly challenging time, but I wanted to reach out to some of my bride and grooms to find out how a postponed wedding had affected themselves both personally and emotionally. Anyone who had a wedding planned for spring or summer 2020 will have unfortunately gone through this experience, but it was really interesting to  speak to a number of my couples to see how they had responded to the situation and how they coped with the massive disappointment of having to reschedule a date that had been planned for in some cases many years.

First of all lets speak to Owen and Chrissie who where due to be married on 21 March at  https://www.dodmoorhouse.co.uk/,  the day after Boris Johnson announced that wedding could not take place

When did you realise that you where going to have to postpone your wedding?

This was made apparent to us at 5pm the evening prior to our wedding as we were about to leave for the hotel and the venues bridal suite.

Can you describe the thoughts and emotions you felt when you realised this was inevitable.

Chrissie was in disbelief, she didn’t believe me that the venue had called to cancelled, as we were so close to the day and time of the wedding. She was the very emotional with lots of tears. I was initially a little numb as I took the phone call, I felt lost as I knew I had to go and tell Chrissie that the wedding was cancelled. I was then extremely frustrated and wanted clear details of why this was happening. I was left speechless but quickly became understanding of the reasoning and began to look for solutions.

Did you do anything special on the day of your wedding?

We were lucky enough with the last minute notice that our registrars were still available and would still marry us in a private location with just 10 guests. From there we came back to our house and invited all of our guests over for food and drinks. Ouflorist set our house up with wedding flowers and our wedding cake baker came and brought our cake. Everybody wore their wedding outfits and it really was a day to remember.

How have you found dealing with your suppliers and having to rearrange your date?

We have been lucky that there has been no issues. All of our suppliers have been brilliant in moving dates and being completely understanding .

Are you planning on anything different when your day comes around next year?

We will keep things mostly as planned although it will just be a vow renewal.

Can you give any advice to anyone that may still be having to go through this experience?

Sit tight and remember that you still have each other and everybody around you will support you during this unusual time.

 

Next lets meet Tony and Debbie who were due to be married at  https://www.vicarageboutiquehotel.co.uk/ on 2 may.

When did you realise that you were going to have to postpone your wedding?

We first realised that we was going to have to postpone our wedding when we had an e mail with the guidelines from the Government over weddings  from the registration office.

Can you describe the thoughts and emotions you felt when you realised this was inevitable.

We felt totally devastated, deflated heartbroken, and was totally numb as we didn’t have any guidance of what to do next.

How have you found dealing with your suppliers and having to rearrange your date?

Dealing with most suppliers has been fantastic as most  have been very accommodating throughout the rescheduling of our new date

Did you do anything special on the day of your wedding?

On the day of our wedding we chose to wear our wedding rings at the time we were to get married , we dressed up for the occasion with a meal for 2 and exchanged wedding gifts to each other

Are you planning on anything different when your day comes around next year?

We have had no other option to change our venue, we have chosen a bigger venue. We are getting married in the summer, having an earlier ceremony time, the ceremony will take place outside weather permitting and getting married on a Sunday. Most guests are now staying over on the night of our wedding.

Can you give any advice to anyone that may still be having to go through this experience?

Not many brides and grooms have 2 weddings in 2 years so at least that will be an experience for us.

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freelance wedding, pregnancy and new born photographer based in Lincolnshire.
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